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Are those men who are pathologically narcissistic also codependent? Well, codependent women are perceived as having a shame core. And in truth, so are these men. But they play out their shame core quite differently than codependent women certainly do. 

for one thing, men displaying pathological narcissism are grandiose. They feel and act superior. They possess a sense of entitlement. Also, they rely upon power and control to both attain and remain in such a position. In other words, the narcissistic man goes through life playing the better than role. He also behaves in ways that force his partner into playing the lesser than role. Indeed,she's forced into doing so whether this is something she's comfortable with or not.

Typically the cause of both the abusive narcissistic man’s and the codependent woman’s issues are often similar,. Again, they stem from a shame core which, in turn, typically stems from abuse, neglect, or abandonment during childhood.The codependent woman, however, typically uses the man to provide her with a sense of identity. The narcissistic man, on the other hand, relies upon a created image to provide his sense of identity instead. Furthermore, he truly comes to believe in this image of himself that he created.

Fortunately for the narcissist, most around him typically buy into his well-crafted image as well.

The woman suffering from codependency and the man suffering from pathological narcissism both share another major issue. In truth, they're both spiritually bankrupt. Thus, if they are to get beyond their behavioral health issues, it would behoove both of them to turn inward and develop their sense of connection with the true and highest self. To fill the sense of emptiness both undoubtedly feel, there is a need embrace practices that help one feel a sense of connection to something larger then the self. Many elect to call this God, but the person need not do so. Some prefer to think in terms of the universe, the ground of all being, or something else entirely. But again, there is a need to change how one is currently being with relationship to the self, others, and the world. 

We can look at emotional pain as our body or mind's way of telling us there is something wrong with the way we're currently living. Just as the physical body tells us there is a problem that needs attending to, emotional pain tell us that there is something wrong with the way we're approaching our lives. We need to make some changes to discover the type of inner contentment and happiness we seek.

Sadly, though, most narcissistic men are not truly in touch with their feelings or emotions. They are too busy acting so it appears as if they're certain types of people. But even a number of codependent women Fail to wake up to their emotional pain or, if they do, they can not understand from what it derives and hence, they take no action to improve themselves and their lives.

Why it's important to Awaken to the Emotional Pain and Make Changes

If a codependent woman leaves an abusive narcissistic man but doesn’t deal with her codependency issues, she's inclined to meet up yet once again with another narcissistic man. Why is this? Well, because the codependent woman and narcissistic man have essentially the same issues, although they act them out differently. So, they are attracted to each other. After all, we all tend to attract people who are where we personally are psychologically.

So, If you suspect you're a codependent woman, will you seek to change yourself through personal development and spiritual growth? I certainly hope so. After all, we don’t want you to become one of those codependent women who divorces one man displaying narcissism, addictions, and abusive behavior, only to tie yourself down to another who may look different and act differently initially, but will undoubtedly soon fall into similar problematic behavioral patterns.

Pursue spirituality (which is different than religiosity, by the way), and you likely won’t fall for the created image of the narcissistic man ever again. Instead, you’ll likely settle for a nice guy because you’ll have moved beyond your codependency.